Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Coping Well With Emotions

Recently, my emotions have been like a whirlwind. For a moment this, and another moment that. I hasn't felt like that for very long. Talk about being emo, I think I need to learn to cope with them well. Emotions are good for the soul. But lack of control of them will mean to be controlled by them. We are the master of our emotions. Thus, learning to manage and grow in them is important. I found some ways to manage our emotions on the web. Perhaps this will help. But it will only help temporarily. What is permanent is to pray and depend on God, the one and only that can understand our struggles and emotions. So, I just need to learn to depend on Him. :)

Coping with Emotions

Updated on July 28, 2007

Emotions are so automatic because they are habitual, but we can change our bad habits, including our bad emotional habits.

Changing Bad Emotional Habits

  1. Understand your feelings.

    • What am I feeling?

    • What did I think to make me feel this way? (e.g. inner critic)

    • Are these thoughts true? (e.g. always, never, sometimes, rarely, just in this one situation, analyze why it is or isn't true)

  2. What is the truth? Accept this truth as reality.

  3. Forgiveness

    • "It's over. Let it go."

    • They (I) did the best they (I) could to meet their (my) most important need with the resources they (I) had.

  4. Grow from the experience.

    • How can I learn from this experience?

    • What can I do to change this in the future?

    • If you can solve this problem, sit down and write out a plan to solve it.

Dealing With Emotions About Problems You Can't Change

  1. Acknowledge that there is nothing you can do to fix the situation.

  2. Recognize that worrying about the situation will not improve anything.

  3. Remember that not worrying about the situation doesn't make you a bad person. You can be a better person by directing your energy into something productive rather than worrying about something you can't fix.

  4. Distract yourself from the problem by engaging in activities that require your attention:

    • Watch television

    • Go to a movie

    • Read a book

    • Work / play on the computer

    • Work on a project

    • Talk to somebody

    • Go shopping

    • Go on a trip

    • Visit an amusement park

    • Visit a museum

    • Sit in an outdoor cafe and people watch

    • Write stories

Expressing Valid Negative Emotions

Sometimes your negative emotions are valid, not based on bad emotional habits. Such emotions may include things like grief and anger about violent crimes. It is important that you express these emotions in a healthy way.

  • Cry

  • Talk to a friend

  • Talk aloud to yourself

  • Journal

  • Do something that requires lots of powerful energy (like tearing down the old shed in your back yard, ripping out bushes you never planned on keeping anyhow with your bare hands, practicing martial arts, playing racquetball, etc.)


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